Evelyn returned from school today, and seemed really rather quiet, rather subdued. Obviously concerned, Jilly asked Evelyn what was wrong. Evie denied that anything was wrong and got on about her business.
Later, as Jilly and I were getting Evelyn ready for her bath, Evelyn approached Jilly very sheepishly...
"Mummy, I've got some bad news to tell you!"
Jilly could see that Evelyn was obviously becoming very upset, and asked her what was wrong.
Evelyn confessed, "I've been put in the red book at school", and immediately burst into tears. Evie was absolutely distraught and incapable even of telling Jilly what she had done to deserve such punishment (for a child to be put in her form tutor's red book is considered very serious indeed).
After spending some time trying to calm Evelyn down (while sat in the bath), we evenually discovered that Evelyn had been told off THREE times during the day and that, as a result, her teacher told her that he was going to put her name in his red book tomorrow! Other children were involved in at least one of the incidents, but Evelyn was chastised on two further seperate occasions for (what was, essentially) minor misbehaviour.
We told Evelyn that her teacher was right to put her in the naughty book, and that she had to learn to do as she was told at school (and at home). As a punishment we told Evelyn that she couldn't watch one of her favourite DVDs before bed, that neither of us would read to her tonight, and that nor would we listen to her ryhmes with her as she fell to sleep (as we do every night). Evelyn seemed to think that this was fair punishment and has gone to bed without a word of complaint.
Of course, before she went to sleep, we were sure to tell her how pleased we were with her for confessing what she had done, and that we always wanted her to be sure to tell us about any trouble she got into.
I'm only hoping that, as she grows up, the trouble is never any more serious than being told off for playing with 'supercat' toys while she should be concentrating on her school work.
I'm living in cloud cuckoo land, aren't I?


